Ditching a fiancé can be difficult. Susan Rabin, in How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace , suggests not blaming him/her but rather focusing on how you've changed. Tell them, "I'm not ready or I don't think it will work." Let the person save face, there's no sense in inflicting more hurt.
It was a halloween school of flirting at a NYC nightclub. Singles mulled around with a sign on their back looking for their match, Anthony and Cleopatra, Burton and Taylor, etc. Then Susan started her talk, and she led the audience in evaluating each others smile and did a mirror, mimic exercise. She calls it "EDU-TAINMENT". The evening concluded with a disco. A good time was had by all.
"Being flirtatious was once natural, safe,and fun. Then came the sexual harassment era. Now an author is making a living trying to cure the fear of flirting." Susan spoke at Boston Center for Adult Education about her book, 101 Ways to Flirt and concedes that flirting got a bad reputation. But she says," flirting is acting playfully, being charming, living in the present. Flirting is really very zen. You're concentrating on the moment and the person you're with."
Bill O'Reilly gave me a bit of a hard time emphasizing flirting in the workplace as “dangerous.” But I explained that flirting is fun, playful, charming - a flirt has a sense of humor and is a good conversationalist and listener. Flirts make everyone feel good. Flirting is a win win. While harassment is a win lose or lose lose. I convinced him of the distinction, I hope.
"Flirting is not for seduction, it is not for getting into bed. It is to be playful and charming," Susan Rabin says in her new book, 101 Ways to Flirt. Further hints are to avoid lines, make eye contact, don't stare, and listen well.
Rules of the Game. It's important to know the difference between flirting and harassment. "In flirting, both people feel good; in harassment one person feels terrible," says Susan Rabin, a former sex education teacher who offers classes on flirting. She helps distinguish the difference between the two. She says flirtation ought to be honest, open, fun without serious intent. Read her latest book, 101Ways to Flirt.