"Flirting is acting amorously without serious intent. No one likes desperation," says Susan Rabin, author of How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace." She tells us not to tune in to WIIFM, What's in it for me. Many come because they are shy or fear rejection. She has many good hints in her books.
Susan Rabin from her book 101 Ways to Flirt led us through a series of exercises that included meaningful handshaking, looking into each other's eyes without staring and speaking friendly opening lines. For example, "What a great smile you have!" Then she advised us to remember the "3 A's Attitude, Approach and Action."
Ditching a fiancé can be difficult. Susan Rabin, in How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace , suggests not blaming him/her but rather focusing on how you've changed. Tell them, "I'm not ready or I don't think it will work." Let the person save face, there's no sense in inflicting more hurt.
"Being flirtatious was once natural, safe,and fun. Then came the sexual harassment era. Now an author is making a living trying to cure the fear of flirting." Susan spoke at Boston Center for Adult Education about her book, 101 Ways to Flirt and concedes that flirting got a bad reputation. But she says," flirting is acting playfully, being charming, living in the present. Flirting is really very zen. You're concentrating on the moment and the person you're with."
"Flirting is not for seduction, it is not for getting into bed. It is to be playful and charming," Susan Rabin says in her new book, 101 Ways to Flirt. Further hints are to avoid lines, make eye contact, don't stare, and listen well.